maintaining harmony as husband and wife in a world full of challenges (tema pertemuan NavBogor-Couples 15-03-2025)
Catatan PA Dewa Bogor, nara sumber Jim and Esther Lorenzen

[15:16, 15/03/2025] Perkasa:

Keep yourself in the love of God. 
Love can overflow if we are in the love of God and satisfy with the love of God. 
Relationship is not easy.
We have to intensionally synchronize the gap between spouse. 
“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭9‬-‭10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Honor one another above yourself. 
“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭15‬-‭16‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Problem : selfish, too much focus to work

Roman 15:5,6
“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭15‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭NIV‬‬
He gives ability to be able to act as His disciples

Listen to voice of Sheperd 
Harmony aş couple become a light for others. 

Practical tips

• Pray together: Morning and night. Pray for other people.
• Sharing scripture together
• Make commitment not to go sleep if still have conflict. Not fight after 9pm
• Not use hurtful word when we have conflict.
• To be a good listener. Put HP away when you listen.
• Learn to have fun together. Explore Hobbies. Arrange special time for travelling twice a year. 
• Praying for your spouse. Protect from danger and temptation (sexual sin, pornography, etc)

“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭3‬:‭16‬-‭19‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Love One another despite having different love languages

I can’t change our spouse but first change myself

Having pereonal Mission and purpose will help to keep same heart for God. 

For those who just retired may face period of trouble due to change of daily life. Turbulence

Storming – Norming – Performing – Journing

As husband need to respect wife as Jesus does respect women. Jesus Raised the status of women who commonly  less respected in patriarch culture.

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[21:22, 15/03/2025] Imelda Sipayung:
Tambahan dikit….

• My word is not going out; my acts should match my word.
• Harmony: Live in harmony, being sincere, devoted, and honoring my spouse above myself
• Rejoice with and join in sadness with my spouse.
• As others see us as a couple who love one another, may it inspire them to know Jesus.
• Part of listening is making sure by questioning.
• When arguing, we may not settle yet, but we stop arguing before 9 PM.
• The problem will not crack your marriage
• Every couple has a different processing time/length of time to process… give space to our spouse, and come back to talk again.
• Have date nights together or ‘P-dates’.

Jude 1:21 (UKJV) Keep yourselves in the love (o. agape) of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.